The Party’s Over…..
The party’s over…...
Turn out the lights, the party’s over – they say all good things must come to an end
But why??? It was all so amazing and beautiful.
My son and his incredible, beautiful partner were married last weekend.
It was an event that due to fires; a pandemic and a variety of broken promises took two years to achieve. Yet, after all of the issues, the result was amazing.
Flowers, food, and venues were all presented to perfection. Even the weather held out for three days. The original date was set for July two years ago and on that date, the temperature was 106!!! that is when the talk of winter weddings was in full gear. The band, oh the band, they were stupendous. They were so good the dance floor was full even at 1:30 am!!!! Yes, indeed, I was still on the dance floor at 1:30. Of course, I did have some extra incentive – it is still early stages so we will write about that later in the year. But then Sunday arrived and the reality that the party was indeed over set many of us in a downward spiral of depression as we wanted the party to never end.
As I thought about the last few days and the actual wedding, I was wondering why it affected us so deeply. It wasn’t the flowers or the spectacular vineyard setting, the band, or even the eloquent speeches or our too funny Mistress of Ceremonies. No, it was the people and the love that was in every corner, at every table, and every event. There is something about making the effort to travel a long distance and put your best clothes on for a loving event. You bring -- “YOUR “A” GAME”
It started at the first casual function followed by the rehearsal dinner and concluded with the actual wedding. People were present and available. The guests talked with each other not just with the people they knew. Everyone was available to meet new people and to explore where they were from, their relationship with the couple getting married, and more – much more.
There was an atmosphere of loving curiosity and availability for conversations that could be continued after the event had concluded. It was just the right atmospheric mix that allowed people to be comfortable, let their guard down, and experience the joy of being with people merely for the happiness that we can bring when we are genuine and interested. Tribalism and social barriers can separate us but that was not present for three days. This was a human event that fostered a loving curiosity about our differences and our commonality. This wedding was all about love and human kindness and that is why we never wanted the party to end.
It was an honor to be present
With love
Your friend and father…