Bandwidth

Are you unhappy today with a laundry list of things on your plate that will not go away.? As I thought about this, I realized that there is always such a list.  The frustration is that we determine that bandwidth and what can and cannot fit within the bands.   

Perhaps it is the horrible traffic on the way to work. You don’t get enough sleep and have no time to exercise.   Arriving home you start your other job, a different line of work – cooking, cleaning, consulting.  The news is bad.  You don’t have the bandwidth to take on anymore things or people to care for.

Sound familiar.

The reality is that all these things, issues and problems will be there tomorrow and the next day.  Or a new set of problems will replace the ones you so want to get rid of.   One might think that the solution is to shut down and deal with the slate of problems and disappointments that you have today and hope they don’t increase.

That is one solution because let’s face it your plate is already full, how could you give any more….If I only allow the things I know will stress me in my life,  where is the room to make things different?  If you are unhappy with the circumstances, rather than shutting down consider adding things to your plate….

Seems counter intuitive but maybe the solution is adding a little positivity to your busy day … pretty sure a little positivity can fit within the bands!

Connect with someone who cares.  Someone who will listen.  A ten-minute walk or a quiet moment in your room to breathe and connect with yourself.  Add some people who will say kind things,  will not judge but will help even if just a little. 

If I allow all the stressful things to be in my life what is stopping me from allowing good things into my life

People who are not asking for more, don’t need to be validated for giving what you can accept.  I only have so much time, but I do not want to block them because then all I have left is the shit that I am complaining about

Maybe the answer is not shutting down or allowing yourself to believe you have no bandwidth—- add a different list of things---positives that take a different space.  A little at a time.  It is you who think you have no bandwidth and it is you who must make space. Maybe there are people and things available for you to connect that will not take up space or emotional effort but just might make all those other things more manageable

Connect with the positive --- just might increase your bandwidth